Reflections on my Parents during my 25th Birthday.

I just made it half way to 50 the other day, and spent much time meditation on aging and my life thus far. The hugest chunk of that has been being raised by my parents. I have strived to avoid the selfish, egotistic, proud, self involved psychology that wants to blame all my sins and heart struggles on my folks, and by God’s grace I have more or less succeeded. Did my parents cause me to struggle with certain sins? No, James 1v13 onwards is clear that my heart wanted to do those things. Did they make my circumstances more conducive to certain sins? Yes, perhaps to some degree, and yet God allowed me to be in the family I was, and He promised never to tempt me beyond what I am able (1 Cor 10:12). However when I look back, I can only be grateful, grateful that:

1)      My parents never allowed me to be given to self-worship and self-reliance. Sins which would be hard to see since they appear and feel so good. My house was one always filled with looking to the Lord, whether it was His return (even under an unhealthy type of imminence), or His help, God was who was to be called upon.

2)      My upbringing never allowed me to boast in my class or status, we were never as rich as to forget God and be consumed with materialism, nor were we ever so poor as to have to steal.

3)      My father has never murmured against the providence of God. Even when my mother is suffering from terminal cancer and the German mechanic must now become a nurse. Yet my father has always trusted in the Lord’s faithfulness, and as time goes by speaks more and more about our Savior.

4)      Honor your wife. My father has always honored and loved my mother. Like Christ loves the Church with all her failings and short comings. My father has sacrificially given to and for my mother since I can remember.

5)      My mother taught me to care for the lost, and that faith in Jesus Christ is the message all need to hear. However one might question the motivations she had for her passion, the truth is, she taught people to care that the gospel be spread, even if it means giving up sentimental things like an engagement ring… souls are that important.

6)      My parents taught me to love unconditionally. I am not saying the love of my parents was a perfect love, but they loved no matter what grades were achieved, or what successes were made or failed.

7)      My mother ingrained in me one aspect of God holiness, in that we must decide what is not good and abstain from it. So I was never subjected to the horror of growing up in a liberal home where anything goes, and thus thinking I am good in God’s eyes, all the while sinning against Him.

8)      My father taught me what it was to work hard, without complaining or moaning, under almost slave like hours. An inspiration to strive and live with all my might while I do live

9)   I grew up with the security of a strong marriage; I was never a victim of a shaky marriage in my parents. By God’s grace I had a living demonstration of how sinners with God’s help and live long and happy together

10)   My father taught me faithfulness. Faithfulness to his wife, my brothers, and my sisters-in-law, all my life he has been a steady rock and I never knew what it was to grow up with a violent, untrustworthy, or uncaring dad. He is but a small example of the fullness of my heavenly Father.

11)   When I was sick I always knew my mother’s care. So I have never experienced the loneliness of suffering without help. I know similarly God will always be there is so much more of a real way than she was.

I may be able to go on, but in short I was spared having to deal with the issues that someone raised as a secularist/ liberal/ physically abused/ educationally deprived/ ignored/ hated/ not provided for and a myriad of other situations that I can’t think of, they are so far removed from my situation. I am not saying that I had perfect parents, or that I was raised perfectly, what I am saying is that no matter who you are and how you were brought up, though your situation may make certain sins more enticing, praise God for the myriad of other situations and sins which you were kept from.

May God help me to always acknowledge my own sin before Him, and look to Christ for refugee, and never falsely accuse God for causing my sin, because of the circumstances He put me in, by His own Holy and infallible, wise providence and rule.

To God be all the glory for the wonderful parents He gave me, sinners saved by grace.

  8 comments for “Reflections on my Parents during my 25th Birthday.

  1. May 3, 2010 at 9:03 pm

    What a great tribute.
    ..how privileged you are to have such parents.

    Well done Tyrrell – I love the way you bring out the glory of God in all things!

  2. Maryan Noble
    May 3, 2010 at 9:06 pm

    Wow, thats so Powerful, Pastor T! Ur parents are Legends,i am humbled to hav known them! Uncönditional Love+spreading the Gospel i learnt from ur Mum, God Bless you all!!

  3. Lydia
    May 4, 2010 at 6:38 pm

    This brought tears to my eyes Tyrell. You write so beautifully and honour your parents in what you have said. They really are precious and have been so kind to the boys and I, especially since Clint died.

    • tyrellh
      May 13, 2010 at 3:43 pm

      Thanks Lydia.

  4. Hugo
    May 11, 2010 at 8:24 pm

    Tyrell, you have so insightfully written these words which must surely make your dear parents very proud of you. The Haag clan have in so many ways been a great blessing to many people. I thank God for the blessedness of being so closely connected to you all. You are all constantly in my thoughts and prayers.

    • tyrellh
      May 13, 2010 at 3:41 pm

      Thank you Hugo

      Much appreciated

  5. Brett
    May 27, 2010 at 9:53 pm

    Thanks for publishing this. As is popular these days, I have at times been tempted to share the blame for my sins, faults and weaknesses. And sadly enjoy the credit for any strengths or good.

    But God has increasingly drawn my thinking in this direction. You have drafted an excellent example of what it means to honour our parents.

    I asked a friend to read it and he appeared moved by the truth of it and convicted of his own attitudes toward his parents.

  6. Kenyon
    October 11, 2010 at 3:12 pm

    A good example of the attitude a sheep should have to his pastor and of what a pastor should be to his flock too . Thanks Tyrell! 🙂

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